What To Say To Someone Experiencing Pet Loss

Sometimes it’s difficult to know what to say to someone experiencing pet loss that is meaningful, compassionate, and helpful.

It is easy to say “I’m sorry” but most of the time this is not very supportive because this is a worn out cliché. Not only is it a worn out statement but it can set up an uncomfortable situation for the grieving person.

For Example

  1. It could make the grieving person feel as if they have to react in a certain way to be polite to you.
  2. You could trigger more intense grief that the person is not ready to feel.
  3. Since it is overused, most grieving people graze over the statement.

What Else Not to Say To Someone Experiencing Pet Loss

There are many statements that are not helpful to people and can actually cause a person to feel alone and unsupported. Try to avoid these statements:

  1. I know what you are feeling.
  2. I went through the exact same thing.
  3. At least you had a good life with your pet.
  4. At least you have two other dogs/cats/horses.
  5. Be happy. He’s no longer suffering and is in a better place.
  6. My brother lost his dog on the same day as yours.
  7. Are you still not over this?
  8. You will feel better soon.
  9. You are not going to let this get you down, are you?
  10. Believe me, you can always adopt another.

What To Say To Someone Experiencing Pet Loss

People experiencing grief love to tell their story. They need to tell their story. Telling one’s story is a big part of the process of mourning on the path toward healing.

By saying or writing the following sets up a safe place for them to share and heal.

  1. Sending healing compassion and comforting hugs.
  2. I hope you feel surrounded by much love.
  3. My thoughts are with you and your family.
  4. Thinking of you and wishing you moments of peace and comfort as you remember your companion who was so close to you.
  5. Holding you close in my thoughts.
  6. Keeping you in my warmest thoughts as you navigate this difficult time.
  7. Wishing you hope and healing when you’re ready.
  8. It sounds as if Duke was such a good dog.
  9. Wishing you a warm smile amid the tears as you remember happy times with your loyal companion and friend.
  10. Our fur babies hold such an important place in our lives and our hearts. Thinking of you as you remember yours.
  11. I’m here if you ever want to talk.

All of these statements are perfect things to say to someone experiencing pet loss whether you are verbally supporting them, writing them a text, or supporting someone on social media.