Supporting Grandchildren With Pet Loss

When supporting grandchildren with pet loss they may look to you to help them through their feelings of grief and mourning. Here are 5-Tips to help them understand that death is normal. There are many ways that you can support your grandchild with pet grandchildren with pet loss

These five tips are the guidelines that I use with my clients when they are looking for ways to supporting grandchildren with pet loss. In using these five tips, you will support them in a healthy and positive way.

Tip 1Honesty is important

If you are unclear about your feelings about death in general, it will be difficult to be honest. However, it is important to tell your grandchild the truth.

It is important to tell them that their pet has not gone to sleep, run away, or is living on a farm. Of course all of this depends on the age of your grandchild.

A general rule is to be clear, honest, and talk about death in simple and specific terms. I talk about this in more detail in my book Healing A Child’s Pet Loss Grief.

Tip 2Carefully allow your emotions of grief to show.

As you know, full honesty is important when explaining death to your grandchild. Even still, keep in mind that since the emotions of grief may be new for your child, when they observe your emotions, this experience will affect them.

Tip 3Help and supporting grandchildren with pet loss grief.

Your grandchild will probably have many questions, so be prepared to talk to them and explain to them what happens. The more you allow them to talk and the more you understand about grief the more supportive you will be.

Tip 4Grief and mourning are different.

Grief is an inward expression of suffering from a loss, and mourning is the outward expression. It is important to allow your grandchild to outwardly express their inner grief with a pet funeral or pet memorial that they help design.

It will help them with their feelings of grief, teach them about losses in life, and help them to develop into adaptable, capable, and functional adults.

Tip 5Be an example for how to move through the grieving process.

Since the death of your grandchild’s pet may be their first experience surrounding death and grief, understanding your own attitude and reactions is critical.

This experience gives you the opportunity to be a confidant, teacher, supporter, and role model who is there for them, listens, and unconditionally loves them.

Pets are so important and they can be incredible teachers for introducing death to a child. With the five tips provided, you will be able to support your grandchild in their first and future encounters with death and be the perfect role model for this life experience.

What are your feelings about death? How will you help your grandchild when they ask about the death of their pet? Are there any comments that you made that may be half-true, vague, or considered to be myths?

Wendy Van de PollWendy Van de Poll is a pioneering leader in the field of pet loss grief support and the human-animal bond. As a bestselling author, speaker and coach, she has passionately devoted her life to the mission of increasing the quality of life between animals and people. Wendy has run with wild wolves in Minnesota, coyotes in Massachusetts and foxes in her backyard. She is the founder of Center for Pet Loss Grief and appears as a guest blogger on Sixty and Me as well as others.